River's Chi House

I have created this free site to provide information that might prove to be helpful to you or your family or friends or even to a stranger or two that might be in need of some help. The second link in the Link section will take you to the introduction to my bog. Links found near the top are the most useful for understanding chi and healing. There are some real treasures here if you but take the time to find them, inshAllah.

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Practicing any Type of Mediation Is a Prerequisite For Deep Self-Cultivation

http://www.tricycle.com/-practice/full-body-empty-mind

The rest of the article can be found by clicking the link above.



"When we start to relax, we start feeling the body. Tensions and contractions in the body serve as a numbing blanket that keeps the tiny physical sensations that exist on every part of the body from being felt. Learning how to relax while remaining upright in the sitting posture allows the body’s full range of sensations to come out of hiding and make their existence felt. It’s always struck me as peculiar: If I know that sensations can be felt to exist everywhere in the body, then why don’t I feel them? And what effect does blocking out awareness of feeling have on me? And finally, if the mind that is “lost in thought” is somehow dependent on my not feeling the sensations of the body, what happens to the mind if I let myself feel the entire body, head to toe, as an unbroken field of sensations? The sitting posture itself can be a kind of crucible for burning off the tensions and restrictions to body and breath that all too often keep us lost in thought and unaware of feeling presence.
A good place to start is examining what happens to the body when you’re lost in thought. This, of course, is tricky to do, because when the mind is off wandering in involuntary thought, you’re not very aware of the body at all. But if you can include an observation of the body while you’re off in a thought, you’ll find that the condition “lost in thought” is directly accompanied somewhere in the body by muscular contraction and tensing, stillness and rigidity, and a subtle contraction or holding quality to the breath. In other words, when you’re lost in thought, you’re tense in body. It follows, then, that if you can consciously work with the body during your sitting practice to soften and relax the tensions and allow more resilient and natural movement to accompany the passage of the breath, the chatter of the mind can be reduced, and your practice can start going really deep

I Am a Matriarchal Sufi

http://www.adishakti.org/_/centrality_of_the_divine_feminine_in_sufism.htm

Click on the link to read the whole post.


"Sufism cherishes the esoteric secret of woman, even though Sufism is the esoteric aspect of a seemingly patriarchal religion. Muslims pray five times a day facing the city of Makkah. Inside every Mosque is a niche, or recess, called the Mihrab - a vertical rectangle curved at the top that points toward the direction of Makkah. The Sufis know the Mihrab to be a visual symbol of an abstract concept: the transcendent vagina of the female aspect of divinity. In Sufism, woman is the ultimate secret, for woman is the soul. Toshihiko Izutsu writes, “The wife of Adam was feminine, but the first soul from which Adam was born was also feminine.”[16] The Divine Feminine has always been present in Islam. This may be surprising to many people who see Islam as a patriarchal religion. Maybe the reason for this misconception is the very nature of the feminine in Islam. The Divine Feminine in Islam manifests metaphysically and in the inner expression of the religion. The Divine Feminine is not so much a secret within Islam as She is the compassionate Heart of Islam that enables us to know Divinity. Her centrality demonstrates her necessary and life-giving role in Islam. Sufism, or as some would define it “mystical Islam” has always honored the Divine Feminine. Of course, Allah has both masculine and feminine qualities, but to the Sufi, Allah has always been the Beloved and the Sufi has always been the Lover. The Qur’an, referring to the final Day, perhaps divulges a portion of this teaching: “And there is manifest to them of God what they had not expected to see.”[17]

Friday, January 18, 2013

Marines expanding use of meditation training



Marines expanding use of meditation training

Mind Fitness Training found to help troops improve mental performance under stress of war



Read more: http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2012/dec/5/marines-expanding-use-of-meditation-training/#ixzz2IN7ZjJhu
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While preparing for overseas deployment with the U.S. Marines late last year, Staff Sgt. Nathan Hampton participated in a series of training exercises held at Camp Pendleton, Calif., designed to make him a more effective serviceman.
There were weapons qualifications. Grueling physical workouts. High-stress squad counterinsurgency drills, held in an elaborate ersatz village designed to mirror the sights, sounds and smells of a remote mountain settlement in Afghanistan.
There also were weekly meditation classes — including one in which Sgt. Hampton and his squad mates were asked to sit motionless in a chair and focus on the point of contact between their feet and the floor.
“A lot of people thought it would be a waste of time,” he said. “Why are we sitting around a classroom doing their weird meditative stuff?
“But over time, I felt more relaxed. I slept better. Physically, I noticed that I wasn’t tense all the time. It helps you think more clearly and decisively in stressful situations. There was a benefit.”
That benefit is the impetus behind Mindfulness-based Mind Fitness Training (“M-Fit”), a fledgling military initiative that teaches service members the secular meditative practice of mindfulness in order to bolster their emotional health and improve their mental performance under the stress and strain of war.
Designed by former U.S. Army captain and current Georgetown University professor Elizabeth Stanley, M-Fit draws on a growing body of scientific research indicating that regular meditation alleviates depression, boosts memory and the immune system, shrinks the part of the brain that controls fear and grows the areas of the brain responsible for memory and emotional regulation.
Four years ago, a small group of Marine reservists training at the Marine Corps base in Quantico, Va., for deployment to Iraq participated in the M-Fit pilot program, taking an eight-week mindfulness course and meditating for an average of 12 minutes a day.
A study of those Marines subsequently published in the research journal Emotions found that they slept better, had improved athletic performance and scored higher on emotional and cognitive evaluations than Marines who did not participate in the program, which centers on training the mind to focus on the current moment and to be aware of one’s physical state.
The Army and Marines have since commissioned separate studies of larger groups of troops receiving variations of M-Fit training, the results of which currently are under scientific review and likely will be published in the next few months.
“The findings in general reinforce and extend what we saw in the pilot study,” said Ms. Stanley, an associate professor of security studies at the Georgetown School of Foreign Service. “These techniques can be very effective in increasing situational awareness on the battlefield, in not having emotions drive behavior, in bolstering performance and resilience in high-stress environments. I’ve seen effects in my own life.”
Military meditation
A former Army intelligence officer, Ms. Stanley served in KoreaMacedonia and Bosnia. Subsequently diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), she struggled after leaving the military and enrolling in graduate programs at Harvard and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
Frustrated by the ineffectiveness of prescription medication, she began to research mindfulness and quickly became convinced that the mental and emotional health benefits of meditation could help not only her, but also other service members.
Ms. Stanley wrote a paper for the Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency (DARPA), essentially arguing that meditative techniques similar to those used by Buddhist monks were both necessary and appropriate for today’s military — from drone pilots coping with information overload to infantrymen conducting dangerous and stressful counterterrorism and counterinsurgency operations.
“The initial concerns form the military were, ‘Is this going to be a waste of time, and is this going to interrupt my finely honed rapid-action drills?’” Ms. Stanley said. “The concerns coming from the mindfulness side were, ‘If you teach them these skills, and they become more open people, will it undermine their ability to armor up psychologically? A few people even wondered if I was trying to make, quote, ‘better baby-killers.’”
Undaunted, Ms. Stanley sought support for a pilot program through her connections in the Army — the same Army that in the mid-1980s conducted a Trojan Warrior Project, in which 25 Special Forces soldiers nicknamed the “Jedi Knights” received six months of meditative and martial-arts training that helped them perform better than their peers on psychological and biofeedback tests.
She found an advocate in Maj. Jason Spitaletta, a then-Marine reservist who was a psychology graduate student in non-military life. Mr. Spitaletta read Ms. Stanley’s DARPA paper and brought it to the attention of his superiors, who agreed to participate in the 2008 study.
Over eight weeks of 12-hour days otherwise devoted to mock firefights and exhausting field exercises, 31 Marine reservists were taught breathing exercises and yoga poses, how to focus their attention and how to prevent their minds from wandering. More than once, they could be seen outdoors, sitting cross-legged and practicing meditation.
Amishi Jha, the researcher who evaluated the troops, found that the service members in the program ended up with improved moods and greater attentiveness — and that the individuals who spent additional time meditating on their own saw the biggest improvements.
“It’s like working out in the gym,” said Ms. Jha, the director of contemplative neuroscience for the University of Miami’s Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative. “Right now, the military has daily physical training. Every day, they get together and exercise. But the equivalent is not given to the mind. The more [these troops] practiced, the more they benefited.”
Brain training
Why the cognitive boost? The answer lies in neuroscience. Previous studies have shown that habitual meditation:
• Changes the way blood and oxygen flow through the brain;
• Strengthens the neural circuits responsible for concentration and empathy;
• Shrinks the amygdala, an area of the brain that controls the fear response;
• Enlarges the hippocampus, an area of the brain that controls memory
• In a recent, incomplete study of Marines taking an M-Fit course — the one Sgt. Hampton participated in — University of California at San Diego and Navy researcher Chris Johnson took blood and saliva samples from the participating service members and used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to scan their brains.
• According to a report in Pacific Standard, the troops recovered better from stressful training, while their brain scans showed similarities to those taken of elite Special Forces soldiers and Olympic athletes.
“Basically, there are parts of the brain that work differently in high performers,” said Robert Skidmore, director of operations for the Alexandria, Va.-based Mind Fitness Training Institute. “It’s possible to train our minds to process things differently. With eight weeks of training, working memory capacity increases.”
Essentially the short-term, scratch-pad system we use to manage relevant information, solve real-time problems and regulate our current emotional state, working memory is roughly equivalent to random access memory in a computer and functions on a daily basis like money in a bank account: Use it, and it depletes until it can be replenished.
Heavy cognitive tasks, such as scanning an alley for armed insurgents, require working memory. So do emotional challenges, like dealing with the stress of leaving one’s family for an overseas deployment.
According to Ms. Jha, depleted working memory has been linked to emotional impulsivity, prejudiced behavior, domestic violence and alcoholism.
“It’s the core resource for regulating your own behavior,” she said. “It’s not like your psychological state or mood is separate.”
In the M-Fit study, troops who meditated regularly increased their working memory capacity; moreover, they were more aware of their physical responses to combat stress.
In a fight-or-flight situation — for instance, a firefight — the pupils dilate to take in more information. Blood flows away from the stomach and into the muscles, producing the familiar “butterfly” sensation. Heart and breathing rates rise. Stress hormones course through the body.
More importantly, blood flow in the brain is redirected away from the areas that control rational thought and toward the areas associated with instinct and survival.
“It’s really hard to access rational thought during high-intensity stress situations,” said Jared Smyser, 28, a former Marine who lives in Richmond, Va., and is training to become an M-Fit instructor. “All this stuff happens in your body because we’ve evolved to get away from predators. But it’s not really relevant in today’s warfare. You need to be calm, collected, making better decisions.”
According to Ms. Stanley, meditative training can help troops do so by increasing efficiency in the insular cortex, which allows people to rapidly switch between thinking and unthinking states of mind.
“It can be exercised when we are attending to sensations in the body,” she said. “So a whole lot of our course is teaching the ability to track those sensations. People come into the course thinking it will ruin their ability to respond fast in combat, but actually, we’re enhancing their ability.”
In the future, Ms. Stanley said, meditation may become as standard in the military as rifle practice, another way of making troops more effective and resilient. Next year, the Marines will incorporate M-Fit classes into an infantry school at Camp Pendleton, making the program a tentative part of its regular training cycle.
Mr. Smyser, who served in Iraq in 2005, said military mental training is overdue.
“It absolutely would have beneficial to me [in Iraq],” he said. “I was very skeptical at first, but I’ve seen benefits in my own life. I’m interested in working with veterans with PTSD. And if we teach this upfront, we might be able to prevent some of the problems we have to fix afterwards.”


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DR. JERRY ALAN JOHNSON


This man is the real deal. I have his book on Medical Chi Kung and recommend it to anyone who wants to understand and practice healing chi kung.  

The audio interview below is a good introductions to  Dr. Johnson.


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Biography


• Zhu Chi (Senior Abbot) of Tian Yun Gong:
Senior Abbot of the Temple of the Celestial Cloud - Daoist Temple
Specializing in Wu Dang Martial Arts, Chinese Medicine, and Daoist Magic.
• Ordained Senior Priest in Zheng Yi Daoism:
Received 2nd “Lu” Ordination as a Daozhang (Abbot) (Rank: Level 5-4)
at the Celestial Master’s Mansion in Jiangxi Province - October 2008.
• Ordained Priest in Zheng Yi Daoism:
Received 1st “Lu” Ordination as a Daoshi (Daoist Priest) (Rank: Level 7-6)
at the 900th Year Anniversary of the Founding of the Celestial Master’s Mansion in Jiangxi Province - October 2005.
• Disciple of 65th Celestial Master Daoism:
Accepted as a Tudi (Apprentice) (Rank Level 9-8) in Celestial Master Daoism (Tian Shi sect),
from Long Hu Shan Daoists priests in Jiangxi Province.
• 80th Generation Disciple of Mao Shan Daoism: 
Accepted as a Tudi (Apprentice)(Rank Level 9-8) in Highest Purity Daoism (Shang Qing sect),
from Mao Shan Daoists priests in Jiangsu Province.
Daoist Background
Professor Jerry Alan Johnson was ordained and licensed at the Celestial Masters Mansion in the Longhu Shan Zhengyi Monastery in Jiangxi Province, through the Peoples Republic of China’s Ministry of Religion. He is currently the Senior Abbot (Zhuchi) of Tian Yun Gong (The Temple of the Celestial Cloud), located in Monterey California.
As of November 2011, the Monastery at the Celestial Master’s Mansion has ordained more then 38 Daoist Disciples, 48 Daoist Priests, and 8 Daoist Bishops from the Tian Yun Gong, under the special training of Senior Abbot Luo Sheng (Dr. Jerry Alan Johnson).
To date, he has been studying Daoist Mysticism for over 40 years, including the Shang Qing Pai, Tian Shi Pai, Ling Bao Pai, Bai Ji Pai, and Long Men Pai systems of esoteric magic. He has written over 8 instructional books on Daoist Magic, including:
• Daoist Magical Incantations, Hand Seals, and Star Stepping
• Magical Tools and the Daoist Altar
• Daoist Exorcism: Encounters With Sorcerers, Ghosts, Spirits, And Demons
• Daoist Mineral Magic
• Daoist Plant and Animal Magic
• Daoist Weather Magic and Feng Shui
• Daoist Magical Transformation Skills,Dream Magic, Shape-Shifting, Soul Travel, & Sex Magic
• Daoist Magical Talismans
Doctor Johnson is also a Professor of Traditional Chinese Medicine, licensed through the Peoples Republic of China’s Ministry of Health, and is internationally renowned as a Shifu (Master Instructor) in several styles of Chinese Wudang Martial Arts.
1970's
In the early 1970's, Professor Johnson was introduced to the Wu Dang Shan Monastery - Pole Star School of Daoist Mysticism (Quan Zhen branch) from his Taijiquan instructor. Through this esoteric Daoist training, he was taught beginning, intermediate, and advanced levels of Qigong and Shengong skills.
1980's
In the early 1980's, Professor Johnson was introduced to the Mao Shan Monastery - Highest Purity School of Daoist Mysticism (Zheng Yi branch), from one of his Baguazhang instructors. Because of his prior training, he was taught advanced levels of Daoist Qigong and Shengong skills.
The advantage of having trained in both schools of Daoist Mysticism opened many doors for him to also train with several Jesuit priests and Daoist monks schooled in the Celestial Master, Complete Reality, and Red Hat Schools of Daoist Mysticism.
1990's
Throughout 1990's, Professor Johnson made several trips to China in order to continue extensive training in Daoist Mysticism. His studies included: Form School Divination, Yi-Jing Divination, Pole Star Daoist Mysticism, Mao Shan Neigong, Qigong and Shengong Training, and Advanced Tantric Buddhist Shengong Training.
2000's
In September of 2004, Professor Johnson returned to China to continue extensive training in Daoist Mysticism. While training in the Jiang Su province, he became accepted as a disciple (Dizi) and was then formally indoctrinated into the Zheng Yi sect of Daoism, becoming an 80th Generation Disciple of the Mao Shan Monastery, from the Shang Qing (Highest Clarity) branch.
In March of 2005, Professor Johnson returned to China to continue extensive training in Daoist Mysticism. In order to learn advanced Daoist mysticism, Abbot Feng suggested that Professor Johnson travel to the Celestial Masters Mansion, in the Jiangxi Province, where he (the Abbot) had personally received his "Lu" and other advanced levels of spiritual training.
After thanking the Abbot, Professor Johnson made route to the Long Hu Shan Monastery. Upon arriving at the monastery, he was greeted by the resident Abbot and gave him a letter of introduction that Professor Johnson's teacher had prepared for this occasion. Upon reading the letter of introduction and hearing his formal request, the Abbot immediately took him to meet the senior Abbot Zhang Jing Tao, the 65th Celestial Master.
After subsequent examinations, Professor Johnson was invited to become a formal Dizi (disciple) of the 65th Celestial Master and received his "Lu Registration." The formal Lu ceremony was to be performed later that year, during the 900th year anniversary of the founding of the Celestial Master’s Mansion. In doing so, he became the first non-Chinese American descendent to ever be accepted as a disciple of the Celestial Masters Mansion in the Jiangxi Province.
Immediately upon completion of the indoctrination ceremony Professor Johnson was introduced to his new Daoist Master, Qiu Yu Song. Master Qiu Yu Song is the senior most Fa Shi (Master of the laws of Heaven, Earth, and Man) in the Long Hu Shan sect, and his expertise in Shengong is well known in both the Zheng Yi (Orthodox Daoism) and Quan Zhen (Complete Reality) branches of Daoism. At that time, the Fa Shi taught Professor Johnson the skill of creating talismans and invocations to bind evil spirits.
In the beginning of October 2005, Professor Johnson returned to the Celestial Master's Mansion in Longhu Shan, Jiang Xi province, with a small group of 30 students interested in learning esoteric Daoist Mysticism. During the welcoming ceremony, they were honored by the presence of the 65th Celestial Master Abbot Zhang Jing Tao, the Deputy Director for Cultural and Religious Affairs Madame Yi, and the Mayor of Yingtan City. The student's training included an introduction to ancient Daoist history, and esoteric Daoist stepping patterns used to commune with the Spirit World. Specific attention was then placed on learning how to construct talismans for binding evil, as well as the magical hand seals and incantations needed to activate the talismans and make them functional.
At the end of October 2005, Professor Johnson returned to the Celestial Master's Mansion in Longhu Shan, Jiang Xi province, to participate in the 900th year anniversary of the founding of the Celestial Master’s Mansion and to formally receive his Lu (Level 7-6), becoming ordained as a priest in Zhang Yi Daoism.
In June of 2006, Professor Johnson returned to China to continue extensive training in Daoist Mysticism. While training at the White Cloud Monastery, in Beijing China, he compared specific talismans and incantations used by the Shang Qing Sect of Zheng Yi Daoism for Binding Evil Spirits with the similar techniques used by the senior Daoist priests of the Wu Dang Pole Star Branch of Quen Zhen Daoism. Specific attention was placed on the skill of Summonsing the Five Thunder Gods, as well as accessing and using their various magical powers.
In the beginning of October 2008, Professor Johnson returned to the Celestial Master's Mansion in Longhu Shan, Jiang Xi province, with a small group of 24 of his senior Daoist disciples. Nine students were accepted as Longhu Shan disciples (Level 9 and 8), and 12 students received their first Lu ordinations, becoming ordained as priests in Zhang Yi Daoism (Level 7 and 6). At this time, Professor Johnson also received his second Lu ordination (Level 5 and 4).
2010's
In the beginning of November 2011, Professor Johnson returned back to the Celestial Master's Mansion in Longhu Shan, Jiang Xi province, with a small group of 35 of his senior Daoist disciples and priests. Two of his students were accepted as Longhu Shan disciples (Level 9 and 8), 28 students received their first Lu ordinations, becoming ordained as priests in Zhang Yi Daoism (Level 7 and 6), and five priests received their second Lu ordination (Level 5 and 4), becoming Abbots of the Tian Yun Gong Monastery in Monterey, California. At this time, Professor Johnson also received his post as Zhuchi (Senior Abbot) of Tian Yun Gong.

The link below leads to some of Dr Johnson's sites. 








Standing Chi Kung


Wednesday, January 16, 2013

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Sunday, January 13, 2013

If You Value Relationships, Communication Skills Must Be Learned, Practiced and Used When Necessary




Questioning skills can be found at the link below


“Questioning Techniques

Asking questions effectively



with James Manktelow & Amy Carlson.

Garbage in, garbage out, is a popular truth, often said in relation to computer systems: If you put the wrong information in, you'll get the wrong information out. The same principle applies to communications in general: If you ask the wrong questions, you'll probably get the wrong answer, or at least not quite what you're hoping for.
Asking the right question is at the heart of effective communications and information exchange. By using the right questions in a particular situation, you can improve a whole range of communications skills: for example, you can gather better information and learn more; you can build stronger relationships, manage people more effectively and help others to learn too.
So here are some common questioning techniques, and when (and when not) to use them"






"Listening" is from a website on skillful communication skills.


Listening

1. Requires concentration and energy
2. Involves a psychological connection with the speaker
3. Includes a desire and willingness to try and see things from another's perspective
4. Requires that we suspend judgment and evaluation

"Listening in dialogue is listening more to meaning than to words . . .In true listening, we reach behind the words, see through them, to find the person who is being revealed. Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person as revealed verbally and nonverbally. There is the semantic problem, of course. The words bear a different connotation for you than they do for me. Consequently, I can never tell you what you said, but only what I heard. I will have to rephrase what you have said, and check it out with you to make sure that what left your mind and heart arrived in my mind and heart intact and without distortion."
- John Powell, theologian
Learning to be an effective listener is a difficult task for many people. However, the specific skills of effective listening behavior can be learned. It is our ultimate goal to integrate these skills into a sensitive and unified way of listening.
Key Listening Skills:


Nonverbal:



Giving full physical attention to the speaker;
Being aware of the speaker's nonverbal messages;
Verbal:

Paying attention to the words and feelings that are being expressed;
Using reflective listening tools such as paraphrasing, reflecting, summarizing, and questioning to increase understanding of the message and help the speaker tell his story.

25 Acts of Body Language to Avoid



http://www.marcandangel.com/2008/07/07/25-acts-of-body-language-to-avoid/

Our body language exhibits far more information about how we feel than it is possible to articulate verbally.  All of the physical gestures we make are subconsciously interpreted by others.  This can work for or against us depending on the kind of body language we use.  Some gestures project a verypositive message, while others do nothing but set a negative tone.
Most people are totally oblivious to their own body language, so the discipline of controlling these gestures can be quite challenging.  Most of them are reflexive in nature, automatically matching up to what our minds are thinking at any given moment.  Nevertheless, with the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of our negative body language habits.
Practice avoiding these 25 negative gestures:
I speak two languages, Body and English.
- Mae West
  1. Holding Objects in Front of Your Body – a coffee cup, notebook, hand bag, etc.  Holding objects in front of your body indicates shyness and resistance, such that you’re hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others.  Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.
  2. Checking the Time or Inspecting Your Fingernails – a strong sign of boredom.  Never glance at the time when you’re speaking with someone.  Likewise, completely avoid the act of inspecting your fingernails.
  3. Picking Lint Off of Your Clothes – If you pick lint off of your clothes during a conversation, especially in conjunction with looking downwards, most people will assume that you disapprove of their ideas and/or feel uneasy about giving them an honest opinion.  Leave the lint alone!
  4. Stroking Your Chin While Looking at Someone – “I’m judging you!”  People frequently stroke their chin during the decision-making process.  If you look at someone while you’re stroking your chin, they may assume that you’re making a judgmental decision about them.
  5. Narrowing Your Eyes – If you want to give someone the impression that you don’t like them (or their ideas), narrow your eyes while looking at them.  It immediately places a scowling expression on your face.  A slight narrowing of the eyes is an instinctual, universal expression of anger across various species in the animal kingdom (think about the angry expressions of tigers, dogs, etc.).  Some people make the mistake of narrowing their eyes during a conversation as a reflex of thinking.  Don’t send people the wrong message… don’t narrow your eyes.
  6. Standing Too Close – This just makes people feel uncomfortable.  Most people consider the 4 square feet of space immediately surrounding their body to be personal space.  Cross this invisible boundary with good friends and intimate mates only.
  7. Looking Down While in the Presence of Others – usually indicates disinterest.  Sometimes it’s even interpreted as a casual sign of arrogance.  Always look straight ahead and make eye contact when you see someone you know.
  8. Touching Your Face During a Conversation – Face touching, especially on the nose, is commonly interpreted as an indication of deception.  Also, covering up the mouth is a common gesture people make when they’re lying.  Always keep your hands away from your face when you’re speaking.
  9. Faking a Smile – another sign of deception commonly seen on the face of a fraud.  A genuine smile wrinkles the corners of the eyes and changes the expression of the entire face.  Fake smiles only involve the mouth and lips.  It’s easy to distinguish between the two.  Don’t force yourself to smile… unless it’s for the camera.
  10. Leaning Away From Someone You Like – a sign of being bored and disinterested.  Some people may also interpret it to mean: “I don’t like you.”  People typically lean towards people they like and away from people they dislike.  This is especially true when they are sitting around a table.  If you lean away from someone you like, you’re sending them the wrong message.
  11. Resting Hands Behind the Head or on the Hips – usually interpreted as a sign of superiority or bigheadedness.  Only use these gestures when you’re in the presence of close friends.
  12. Not Directly Facing the Person You’re Speaking To – This indicates a certain level of discomfort or a lack of interest.  When we’re happily engaged in a conversation we face the person we’re speaking to with our feet and torso facing directly forward.  When we’re unsure of the other person, or not completely committed to the conversation, we tend to angle our feet and torso to the side.  Face directly forward during a conversation to give off the impression that you’re truly interested in what the other person is saying.
  13. Crossing Your Arms – a sign of defensive resistance.  Some people may also interpret it as a sign of egotism.  Always try to keep your arms open and at your sides.
  14. Displaying a Sluggish Posture – When you’re in an environment bustling with people your posture becomes an immediate telltale sign of your confidence and composure.  Your stance literally makes a stand for you, delivering a clear message about how you should be treated.  It can make a huge difference in the way strangers respond to you.  Place your feet a comfortable distance apart, keep your shoulders pulled back, head up and greet people with direct eye contact and a firm handshake.
  15. Scratching at the Backside of Your Head and Neck – a typical sign of doubt and uncertainty.  It can also be interpreted as an indication of lying.  Try to keep your hands away from your head when you’re communicating with others.
  16. Messing With the Collar of Your Shirt – It screams: “I feel horribly uncomfortable and/or nervous!”  Once again, keep track of your hands.  Don’t fidget.
  17. Increasing Your Rate of Blinking – a clear sign of anxiety.  Some people start blinking their eyes really fast (in conjunction with an increased heart rate) when they get nervous.  Since most people try to make eye contact, it becomes immediately obvious to others.  Be cognizant of your blinking habits when you’re nervous, especially if someone is looking at you from a close proximity.
  18. Slouching Your Shoulders – indicates low self-esteem.  People associate perked-up shoulders with strong self-confidence.  Always pull your shoulders back.  Not only will you look more confident, you’ll feel more confident as well.
  19. Standing with Your Hands Crossed Over Your Genitals – This casual posture almost guarantees that you’ll lose a little respect before you even have the chance to speak a single word.  People feeling nervous or unsure of themselves will unconsciously take a guarded stance.  Quite frequently they adopt a posture that guards one of their most vulnerable areas, their genitals.  This stance pushes your shoulders forward and makes your entire body look smaller and weaker.  Again, try to keep your hands at your sides and your shoulders back.
  20. Propping Up Your Head with Your Hands – “I’m getting bored!”  Never prop up your head with your elbows and hands during a conversation.  Place your hands on the table in front of you and keep them at rest.
  21. Wiping Sweaty Hands onto Your Clothes – a sign of frantic nervousness.  If your hands are sweating, just let them sweat.  Take a few deep breaths and try to relax.
  22. Sitting on the Edge of Your Chair – a clear indication of being mentally and physically uncomfortable.  It’s an apprehensive stance that will make others around you feel uncomfortable as well.  Keep your rear end firmly planted on the surface of the seat.  When you lean forward, use your back without moving your bottom.
  23. Foot and Finger Tapping – usually indicates stress, impatience or boredom.  Monitor your habits and practice keeping your limbs at rest.
  24. Using Your Hands to Fidget with Small Objects – a pen, paper ball, etc.  This is another sign of anxiety.  It can also be interpreted as a lack of preparedness.  It’s always best to keep your hands comfortably at rest when you’re in the presence of others.
  25. Repeatedly Shifting Body Weight from Foot to Foot – This is another gesture that usually indicates mental and physical discomfort.  People may also see this and assume that you’re ready to abandon the conversation, especially if you’re not directly facing them.  Don’t shift your feet around more than once every 2 to 3 minutes.

Learning what our bodies say about us to others and theirs to



Our ability to communicate well does not come naturally it must be learned and practiced and developed. Our social happiness and indeed our health both mentally and physically depends on our ability to be able to make ourselves and our needs and wants know to others in ways that make the others want to give us what we need and want on average. We need to have the ability also, to understand on average what others are trying to communicate to us.  Knowing body language is one of the communication skills we need to have in our repertoire, unfortunately there are many others.




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Body Language - technically known as kinesics (pronounced 'kineesicks') - is a significant aspect of modern communications and relationships.
Body Language is therefore very relevant to management and leadership, and to all aspects of work and business where communications can be seen and physically observed among people.
Body language is also very relevant to relationships outside of work, for example in dating and mating, and in families and parenting.
Communication includes listening. In terms of observable body language, non-verbal (non-spoken) signals are being exchanged whether these signals are accompanied by spoken words or not.
Body language goes both ways:
  • Your own body language reveals your feelings and meanings to others.
  • Other people's body language reveals their feelings and meanings to you.
The sending and receiving of body language signals happens on conscious and unconscious levels.Body Language - technically known as kinesics (pronounced 'kineesicks') - is a significant aspect of modern communications and relationships. Body Language is therefore very relevant to management and leadership, and to all aspects of work and business where communications can be seen and physically observed among people. Body language is also very relevant to relationships outside of work, for example in dating and mating, and in families and parenting. Communication includes listening. In terms of observable body language, non-verbal (non-spoken) signals are being exchanged whether these signals are accompanied by spoken words or not. Body language goes both ways: Your own body language reveals your feelings and meanings to others. Other people's body language reveals their feelings and meanings to you. The sending and receiving of body language signals happens on conscious and unconscious levels.




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Alan Watts offers the gift of "The Book" to those who would like to understand some of the mystery

Self-knowledge and the ability to confront, explore, work and learn to move and communicate with the Mystery and the unknown. is necessary if we are to have any chance at happiness and inner peace and lasting courage. Alan Watts offers a window and a mirror that can be very enlightening.







Here is the book online. http://www.disclose.tv/action/viewvideo/104616/Allan_Warrs_The_Book_On_the_Taboo_Against_Knowing_Who_You_Are/


Sifu Chris Matsu explains the power of standing still form chi kung and the role of sincerity and integrity in any practice and in day to day life




The website of Sifu Chris Matsu  in the video.http://alchemicaltaoism.com/